How do you know if you are ready for marriage?
Ten years ago, if you weren't married by age thirty, you'd probably have started panicking or perhaps even asked your aunt to arrange you a blind date with her neighbour’s son. Nowadays, it's getting quite common to be a swinging single even at thirty-five. Amidst the nagging you endure during Chinese New Year and family gatherings, have you ever wondered if you are ready for marriage? Below are some tell-tale signs that you aren't quite ready yet.
You Have No Savings
You live from monthly pay to monthly pay. You love max-ing out your credit cards on fine dining and luxury goods. Even though you haven't paid your mobile phone bills, you'd rather spend whatever's left in your bank on "Great Singapore Sale" deals. You Don’t Like to Be Tied Down
You never report to your parents; in fact, you never adhere to any kind of curfew or restriction. You prefer to go wherever your heart takes you, to take off whenever you wish. You crave independence and freedom and think commitment is the scariest thing ever.
You Change Partners Like You Change Clothes
You get bored easily, and as soon as you feel like your partner no longer intrigues you, you find another one. If the other is becoming slightly dependent on you, you feel the urge to run away as far as possible. Somehow, no one seems to be able to hold your attention for long, and it's a miracle that you've never been caught two-timing your partners.
Your Past Haunts You
You have unresolved backstories with your exes, getting back together today and falling out tomorrow. If you’re still not over a past love, don't just race on ahead in life. Take some time out to think things through and understand what you really want. You Have So Many Things Left Undone There are still things on your bucket list you want to achieve and experience all on your own. You Are Selfish
You only call your partner when you feel bored or when you have time to spare. You forget your partner’s birthday, you can never remember your anniversaries, and you have no clue what your partner’s number is—you only know it's saved somewhere in your phone because he keyed it in for you.
You Can’t See Beyond Next Week
You are unable to envision your own future, much less a future with a partner. The future to you is bleak and murky; your motto is “Live for today.” You always change things at the last minute and don’t plan beyond next Saturday night's date. You Love the Idea of a Wedding But Hate the Notion of Marriage You love a good fairy-tale wedding as long as it's in a movie, but to manage a household, get a pet together, or even become a parent one day gives you the creeps.
You Are Marrying for Others
You were pressured into this, and you have your doubts about the relationship. Instead of pursuing your own happiness, you are getting married because you want to make somebody else happy. Written by Kally Tay
Edited by Priscilla
* Kally Tay is a writer who used to be a bride from Annabel Law Productions and a friendship blossomed with Bel after her wedding. She loves to share her knowledge of being a mum and her corporate experiences though her blog at Middle Me.