To quote Tom Hiddleston--our beloved Loki from The Avengers--, "Falling in love is the same as it’s always been; it is surprising and shocking and chaotic and beautiful. The heart is uncontrollable; you can’t legislate for who you fall in love with. It just happens. When you fall in love with someone, you don’t know why you do it, you just do it. If you have a checklist of what you want, is that really love? Trying to construct a relationship, is that love? Real love is about acceptance and truth and vulnerability. When you really can accept someone for who they are, that is what real love is.”
You haven’t tasted of life and love if you haven't experienced at least some of these different types of love. Romantic Love
He touches your heart with endless romantic gestures and makes your heart melt with those little chocolates he leaves on your pillow or that simple note in your shoes to tell you he will be thinking of you. He bakes and sweeps, he fixes and he reads. This kind of love is perfect! Well, 99% perfect, because no one can be completely perfect, right?
You can talk with him about anything in the world for hours. Time just flies by when you are with him, and every date seems to be so fun and unforgettable. You feel intensely connected to him emotionally (he's the first one you called when your boss promoted your archenemy instead of you). Both of you are so in tune that you can sense what the other is thinking and finish each other's sentences. Physical Love
His strut makes you swoon, his gaze sets your heart racing and whenever he comes within 5 feet of you, you have to stop what you're doing because you become completely useless. Somehow you can’t explain it, but the bare physical, animalistic attraction makes you go ga-ga, and the best part about this is... he feels the same way about you too! If not for the fact that you live with your parents, you'd probably have invited him over for a nightcap after yesterday’s date. Ambitious Love
Both of you are career-driven with similar goals, aiming for the stars. You talk about efficiency and productivity, and he brings up career advancement and corporate management. Determined and committed to achieve success in the corporate world, you work closely hand in hand, plotting to take over the world by storm, one date at a time. Unrequited Love
The little pile of tear-soaked tissues at the corner of your bed, the obsessive stalking on Facebook, even the quickly cancelled calls you make to him just to hear his "Hello?"--we've all been there, done that. Nothing to be ashamed of. Platonic Love
You feel connected with him almost to the level of Emotional Love, except that somehow, he can only give you big-brotherly vibes and nothing more. You are happy to be around him and even happier for him when he finally dared to ask the girl of his dreams to marry him. You even helped plan the proposal!
At some point in our lives, we will finally reach the stage of self-love and realise that nothing is more important than loving yourself because only when you love yourself can you learn to love others.
Written by Kally Tay Edited by Priscilla Lai
* Kally Tay is a writer who used to be a bride from Annabel Law Productions and a friendship blossom with Bel after her wedding. She loves to share her knowledge of being a mum and her corporate experiences though her blog at Middle Me.