Hi, I'm Nicole, a bride getting married in 2022. I'm writing today to share with you my experience planning a wedding. I am planning my wedding and have planned my wedding. Yes, it does sound confusing. It's my second time planning a wedding because my previous relationship failed. Many people do not want to talk about it because not conforming to social norms is taboo. I want to share with fellow brides why my marriage failed before it even started because the stress of planning a wedding is very real.
Budget, budget, and budget! I emphasize to every woman that if a man doesn’t plan for your future, do not marry him! I will rather be the assertive woman to tell my partner what I want in the marriage and what I feel is financial stability for me than wait for a storm to happen and be stuck.
Mistakes I have made in my previous marriage :
What is your ideal wedding?
My ideal wedding is an intimate party by the beach with close friends and family. As for my ex, his ideal wedding was an extravagant wedding at Ritz Carlton with pearls, champagne, and wine. There were tons of disagreements because ‘it was not a wedding I wanted ’and vice versa. We had a lot of arguments from invitation cards to what the bridesmaids will wear.
What will people think?
Growing up in an Asian society, we are brought up in a culture to show off. A wedding is an event to show off. To hire the best of everything just for others to see. Perhaps Covid 19 taught us that most things that we used to deem as necessary are no longer required. It’s the true love that will hold us together and not the material possessions. Living within our means to be comfortable is the best way to live.
What is important to you?
To me, the most important thing is photography! I enjoy taking photos of my daily life and adventures! Hiring the best photographer like Annabel Law Productions is always been my top choice. I love the editorial style and feminine style in her photos and the option of my photos to be even shot on film. Annabel has been a photographer since 16 years old and her work encapsulates beauty.
Budget your life
Besides budgeting for your wedding, remember that the both of you have a lifetime together, and budgeting your life is just as important. I have attached a wedding budget template in this blog for a free download to plan and finance your wedding in an orderly manner. Due to Covid19, there are many unforeseen circumstances so always have a plan B option!