Updated: Oct 17, 2018
Be prepared. The moment you announce your engagement, the next question will always be, “So when is the big day?” Before all the aunties and uncles start to pile on you their well-meaning suggestions, it's important that you and your fiancé take the first step to look into possible dates for your Big Day. In order to help you, we've listed the fundamental steps to get you started.
More than One
Never just settle for only one date. The best tip I had from my married friends was to always have two or three dates in mind so that when you are talking to the vendors, you’ll have more leeway and options.
Helena, a bride in June 2015 shared, “I had to give up on my desired wedding venue because the hotel was fully booked on the date we wanted. It was disappointing, but we didn't have a choice.”
Consider your Budget
Weddings on the weekend will be considerably more expensive than a wedding on a weekday. Same goes for an evening wedding versus a wedding lunch. If you really want to have your wedding at top-notch hotels like Marina Bay Sands or Fullerton Hotel, do consider reducing costs by avoiding the weekends.
Consult the Elders
With a narrowed range of dates in mind (for example, May or June in 2017), ask them which are the dates to be avoided. They would able to advise on any family death anniversaries or relatives’ birthdays in those months to avoid a clash with your wedding day.
Annie, a bride in September 2016 commented, “I wanted 09.09.16, but we had a distant uncle’s death anniversary on that day so to avoid bad fortune, we decided to give that day a miss and go with another day instead.”
If many of your friends are parents, the June and December holiday periods are generally not preferred. Your guest attendance is likely to dwindle, possibly by as much as 50%, as most parents would want to travel with their families then; so do take that into your consideration.
This is only significant if you are holding your wedding outdoors. April is the warmest month, January the coolest month and November the wettest month in Singapore. You can avoid being rained upon by having an indoor contingency plan or by researching weather trends available on the web.
After factoring in all the different aspects listed above, you may still want to include something sentimental in your choice of wedding date. There's nothing like having the Big Day coincide with the day of the first date or the first kiss.
Other popular wedding date choices would be 6 June, 8 August, 9 September, 10 October, 11 November, etc. It might be cliché, but that hasn’t reduced the number of ROM registrations made on those dates! It does make it easier to remember, I'll have to admit. You may want to avoid 8 August, though, as in some years it might still fall within the Hungry Ghost Festival season. Best check with your parents. Mother knows best!
Written by Kally Tay
Edited by Priscilla Lai
* Kally Tay is a writer who used to be a bride from Annabel Law Productions and a friendship blossomed with Bel after her wedding. She loves to share her knowledge of being a mum and her corporate experiences though her blog at Middle Me.